Open Question Night: He is Sick. Should I Stay?

Q.

I am in a relationship with someone who is unable to work due to medical reasons. We have been together for the past 4 months and out of nowhere it seemed as if our world came crashing down. We went from being this couple that did literally everything under the sun to everything coming to a halt. Due to his medical conditions i have taken on the responsibility of helping him with some of his utility bills, while also maintaining my own expenses. Some days seems harder than others. If i take this one aspect out of the equation, we have the best relationship i have ever been in. Ultimately I do want to be married and start a family with him but with no guarantee of that between us I’m wondering if I’m doing too much too soon? I feel like I shouldn’t leave him just because he’s sick but I can’t spend my life this.

A.

You are right to feel the way you feel. You guys were not in a long-term relationship and this is a lot of responsibility for just dating a few months. I think it is time to slowly roll your support back for your sanity. Approach his family members about helping out. Show him ways of handling his bills on his own. The truth is that the relationship cannot grow if you feel pressured. Let him know you will always be there, but you need to be there in a different way for your own sanity. That is not selfish. That is being responsible.